3 comebacks to use when they say: “You’re wearing that again?”

-That’s the power of a good washing machine.

This response uses humor to deflect the negative comment & is disarming, making it less likely for the other person to continue with their criticism. It’s assertive & subtly conveys that you’re not interested in engaging in a discussion about your clothing choices. This phrase also shifts the power dynamic & positions you as the on the one in control of the conversation. You’re also protecting your self-esteem & not allowing the other person’s comment to negatively impact your self-worth. This is a clever response that shuts down the unwanted commentary.

-Why does that matter?

This response is direct & directly confronts the questioner’s assumption and shifts the focus back onto them, making them reconsider the reason behind their own intrusive comment. It also sets boundaries and implicitly asserts your right to choose your own clothing without external scrutiny or unnecessary commentary.

-Thank you for noticing, it’s one of my favorites.

This response takes the potentially negative comment and turns it into a positive statement, deflecting the criticism and acknowledging the comment without engaging in a defensive or argumentative manner. It implies confidence because it suggests that you’re comfortable and confident in your style choices. You're also subtly setting a boundary & are not engaging in further discussion or justification while maintaining composure, avoiding escalation, and keeping the interaction light and polite. This response helps you handle the interaction with grace and assertiveness, while maintaining your composure, asserting your boundaries, and still feeling good about yourself.

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Xo,
Dr. C