3 phrases to help you assertively say no.

-No, thanks.

This response clearly states your decision without any room for misinterpretation. You also maintain a polite and considerate demeanor by saying “thank you,” even while declining. It firmly establishes your boundaries without being aggressive or passive-aggressive. This response helps you demonstrate self-respect, assertiveness, and the ability to maintain healthy relationships.

-I’m flattered but I’ll have to pass.

This phrase shows appreciation for their consideration while also being clear with your decision to decline the invitation. This approach balances assertiveness with politeness, which can help maintain a positive relationship.

-I appreciate the offer, I promised myself that (whatever you don’t want to do).

This response offers a clear and honest reason for your decision while still maintaining a positive and respectful tone. By framing your decision as a personal commitment it provides a clear reason for declining, making it less likely to be challenged. It’s a good strategy for situations where you want to be firm and respectful for the person asking.