3 phrases to use to get your husband to say yes.

-Say: Would you be against X?
This frames a request in a way that makes it easier for the listener to say “no” & subtly nudges them towards a positive response. When you frame a question negatively, you’re essentially highlighting a potential loss that the person would experience by saying “no” and this can make the outcome seem more significant, making a positive response more likely.

-Say: Make a statement or ask a question followed by “isn’t it?”
This implies that the listener already agrees with you. Someone may be more likely to say yes to you if you add “isn’t it” to your request: “Having a spa day together is such a great idea, isn’t it? Versus if you would have asked: “want to have a spa day with me?” This happens because they feel they’re aligning with a reasonable, shared view, rather than being asked outright to agree or do something. It also gives the impression that the answer is obvious, which gently nudges them to agreeing.

-Say: Can I ask you for a favor?
Phrasing a request like this works because people tend to feel a sense of obligation to repay favors. It’s polite and conveys humility, making people more likely to say yes to you since it feels less demanding. When you frame it as a favor you’re implying that it’s a small, easy task that won’t require much effort - making the request seem less burdensome.

Keep in mind, it’s important to be genuine and respectful in relationships, so use these techniques strategically and ethically, as overusing them can erode trust.