3 comebacks to use when someone says you’re so dramatic.

-Is it more dramatic to express my feelings or to ignore them?

This assertive response shows confidence in your feelings and your right to express them without apology while questioning the validity of what they just accused you of. It also implies that it’s healthier and more mature to express your feelings than to suppress them. It draws attention to their discomfort with emotional expression, making them reconsider their stance. You’re not only defending yourself but also initiating a conversation about emotional intelligence and the importance of open communication. It can be a powerful tool for setting boundaries and maintaining self-respect.

-What exactly sounds dramatic?

This response deflects unfair criticism while encouraging more specific and productive feedback. By asking for clarification, it implies that the accusation is unfounded and vague while you’re able to preserve composure, maintain your calm, and avoid escalation.

-Saying that doesn’t make my feelings less real.

This response asserts the validity of your emotions and directly challenges the dismissal of your feelings. While someone may not understand or agree with your emotional response, it doesn’t mean your feelings are any less real or important. This response also redirects the focus of the conversation to your feelings and how they deserve to be acknowledged. This response can also catch the other person off guard, especially if they were expecting you to become defensive or apologize for your reaction. It can also force them to reconsider their own dismissive attitude.

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Xo,
Dr. C