Assertive phrases to use to get your family to take a family photo.
-IF you smile for the camera, THEN (we can trick or treat after/offer reward).
This strategy works because it uses positive reinforcement. It clearly outlines a desired behavior (taking a picture and smiling) and pairs it with a positive consequence (trick-or-treating or a specific reward). This approach makes the request more appealing and motivates them to comply. It’s important that the reward is given to them after complying to ensure this strategy works again in the future. Note that this different from bribing, as bribing happens before they complete the desired behavior and the goal is to stop the unwanted behavior immediately. A reward is offered after they complete the desired behavior and the goal is to increase the likelihood of the desired behavior happening again.
-Let’s take a picture and see how much we’ve grown since last halloween (whenever you took last family picture).
This strategy works because it frames the photo as a meaningful experience rather than a chore. It invites a bit of nostalgia and you’re giving the request to take a picture a sense of purpose. Comparing the photo to a past one is also a fun and engaging way to see how much everyone has changed. And when people participate in activities that hold personal significance, they’ll be more likely to participate. Phrasing it this way is also clear, direct, and positive.
-We’re taking a family photo, should we make silly faces or smile (offer two choices)?
By offering choices you’re empowering everyone to feel more in control of the situation and makes the request less demanding and more inviting. It also sets clear expectations, leaving no room for ambiguity. And by offering the suggestion of silly faces or smiles you’re framing the photo as a fun and positive experience without sounding overly demanding or controlling.