-What solutions have you thought of so far?

This response helps redirect the conversation towards problem-solving and productive thinking. Negative friends often get stuck in cycles of complaint without seeking solutions, which can drain both parties. This helps redirect the conversation, helps protect

-You’ve been dealing with a lot lately - what’s been a win, even a small one?

This response also helps redirect the focus to highlight something positive while keeping the tone supportive. By helping them focus on small wins they’re able to activate a part of their brain’s reward system, which can help disrupt patterns of pessimism.

-I’m realizing I’m not in the right headspace today. Can we switch to something lighter or pick this back up later?

This response is an assertive boundary-setting without guilt. It communicates your limits while offering alternatives, which preserves the relationship while protecting your energy.