3 comebacks to use with someone who only talks about themselves.

3 comebacks to use with someone who only talks about themselves.

-Let’s switch it up - can I share a story?

This response clearly indicates that you would like to contribute to the conversation and that you won’t allow the other person to dominate it. By using “I” statements you’re able to assert your right to be heard and your desire to participate int he conversation on an equal footing. This is a polite way to assert yourself in most social situations and ensure that the conversation is a two-way street.

-I’d love to share more about what’s going on with me, ask me something.

This response helps you set a boundary that you’d like a change in the conversation dynamic for a mutual exchange and a more balanced conversation. It’s non-accusatory, as it avoids blaming or attacking the other person for dominating the conversation and helps you maintain a positive tone.

Sometimes we can enable someone’s self-centeredness, to stop this be mindful of providing excessive compliments or giving them too much attention on their needs and desires, as this can make it harder for them to develop empathy for others. If you’re dealing with a self-centered friend or family member, make sure you’re also speaking up, expressing your feelings, and setting boundaries.

-Thanks for sharing, I’ll catch up with you later, then excuse yourself.

Healthy conversations involve a balance between speaking and listening. If you’re in a conversation where you tend to do all the listening then this conversation is one-sided. Some people just don’t have the capacity for feedback or to listen no matter how hard you try to help them see your perspective or try to speak up. In this situation, it’s best to acknowledge them, then excuse yourself politely.

If you tend to do this and need help working on relationship skills or need help being more assertive in your life? Book a 1:1 with me by heading to the book a session tab above.

Xo,
Dr. C