3 comebacks to use when someone comments on your appearance

3 comebacks to use when someone comments on your appearance.

-I’m happy with how I look.

This response directly communicates that you’re happy with your appearance while setting a boundary, implying that you don’t tolerate negative comments about your appearance. It also asserts your self-worth, demonstrates that you value yourself, affirms your self-esteem, while shutting down the negative comment.  

-Did you consider how that might come across?

This response is subtle but effective to challenge their comment without being overly confrontational. It also redirects the focus from you and onto the other person to make them consider what they said and how it may have come off insensitive or inappropriate, which can make them think twice about what they say.

-Is that your professional opinion or personal preference?

This response implies that the person may not have the expertise to judge your appearance. It’s disarming and unexpected, making the person pause and reconsider what they said while also shifting the attention from you and onto them.

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Xo,
Dr. C