3 Demure comebacks to use with mean girls.

3 Demure comebacks to use with mean girls.

The demure, cutesy, and mindful approach is an effective one to use with mean girls. It’s disarming while subtly asserting your confidence while maintaining composure and deflecting negativity. Here are 3 examples to use with mean girls that are demure,, mindful, cutesy, classy, yet assertive:

-It’s hard to hear negativity.

This response acknowledges that you’ve heard their negative comments without engaging in a negative exchange. State it in a calm and composed demeanor so you come off that you’re not affected by it, which is disarming for them and essential when dealing with a mean girl.

-Everyone has different opinions, that’s okay.

This response acknowledges the difference in opinions without directly confronting the insult or negativity and prevents escalating the situation. It also emphasizes that everyone is entitled to their own opinions, suggesting that their opinion is just one of many while you maintain composure and remain calm. This can be especially powerful when dealing with someone who tries to provoke emotional reactions.

-Your words reflect more about you than you might think.

This response directly addresses their behavior by implying their words are a reflection of their own character or mindset. It’s assertive and shifts the focus away from you and onto them, which can be disarming.

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Dr. C