3 explanations to use when they say “someone was talking behind your back/ do you know what she said about you?”

3 explanations to use when they say “someone was talking behind your back/ do you know what she said about you?”

-And what did you say?

This response shifts the focus onto the person who brought you the news and encourages them to elaborate, potentially revealing their own opinion or involvement in the situation. If you trust this person, this is a good reply to gather more information. If you don’t trust this person, be cautious, as they can be trying to manipulate the situation.

-Why do you think they felt so comfortable telling you that? (Chances are if they’re gossiping to you, they’re gossiping about you).

This response shifts the focus and redirects the attention away from you and onto them, implying that they might be just as guilty of gossiping and spreading rumors about you. This example is a good way to defend yourself and show confidence, as it demonstrates that you’re not afraid to confront someone who is gossiping about you.

-What other people think of me, is none of my business.

This response allows you to remain composure while communicating that you’re unbothered by gossip and that you’re not easily swayed by others’ opinions.

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Xo,
Dr. C