3 comebacks to use when you see someone that pretends not to see you.

3 comebacks to use when you see someone that pretends not to see you.

-Thought I’d say hi, so we didn’t miss each other!

This response is direct and explicitly acknowledges the other person’s avoidance confidently. It subtly points out that you noticed their behavior but do so in a way that is still mature and friendly, as the focus is shifted from them pretending not to see you, to the idea that both of you were in the same situation. By taking the lead to greet them, you’re not letting their avoidance dictate the social interaction, are taking control while keeping things polite and non-confrontational.

-Say nothing. Ignore the ignorer.

By not engaging with them, you show that you’re unbothered and are able to preserve your energy for people and situations that matter to you. It also communicates that you don’t need validation or acknowledgement from them to feel confident and are not affected by their presence. You also able to sidestep potential awkwardness, maintain your composure, and are in control of the interaction and not playing into their avoidance.

- I thought I caught your eye earlier - good to see you!

This is subtle way of calling their behavior out in a non-confrontational and casual way. By initiating the conversation, you assert your presence and take charge of the situation, rather than letting their avoidance dictate it. You’re also making it clear that you’re not offended by their actions but are confident enough to engage anyway. By adding the “good to see you” you’re also able to deflect any awkwardness.

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Dr. C