3 comebacks to use when you see someone you don’t like.

3 comebacks to use when you see someone you don’t like.

-Smile and wave then keep walking.

This response allows you to act unbothered. You don’t want them to think they have the ability to control and influence your emotions. It’s also non-confrontational, it visually signals that you’re not interested in engaging in a conversation while respecting each other’s space and maintaining dignity and grace.

-In group setting: Hey. I’m catching up with (name of other friend), feel free to jump into the conversation with the others.

If you’re around other people, act like you like them. Being cold or standoffish can make you come off bad in front of others. Being mature is also different than being fake. Keep it short, stick to facts, be neutral, and don’t give them any additional information. You don’t share your clothes with them, they don’t need to know anything that’s going on in your life. In this scenario you want to redirect the conversation back to the group instead of it focusing on the two of you.

This response sets a boundary and clearly indicates that you’re choosing to spend time with someone else but is polite. It also suggests an alternative instead of being rude and saying you didn’t want to talk to them, allowing them to save face. It also avoids confrontation and doesn’t insult or challenge them in any way. By asserting your preference, you’re taking control of the situation without creating unnecessary drama or conflict.

-Hi (smile), I have to step away but I’ll see you around.  

This response clearly and directly states your intention to leave without any ambiguity while being polite and respectful. Your’e setting a boundary, avoiding conflict, and maintaining control of the situation with someone you’re uncomfortable with.

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Xo,
Dr. C