3 phrases to use when you need to parent someone else’s child & the parent is also there.

3 phrases to use when you need to parent someone else’s child & the parent is also there.

-To child: Hi, let’s give (your child’s name) some space.

If their child’s behavior is impacting your child and bothering yours, I give their parent a minute to address & if nothing say this. This response is direct, polite, and respectful and can de-escalate a situation while protecting your child without a confrontation.

-To parent: I’m here if you need me, but I don’t want to interfere.

This response is best suited for relationships where there might be some sensitivity around parenting styles or where the other person values their independence including for a daughter-in-law, close friend, or sibling. It’s concise, direct, and clearly communicates your willingness to help if needed. It also respects their autonomy and acknowledges that they are the parent and don’t want to overstep boundaries but that you’re offering support without seeming intrusive or judgmental.

-To parent: Quick heads up, your little one may need some help.

This response would work great with a parent of a child that was at risk of getting hurt. It’s non-confrontational and in it’s the parent to assess on their own and intervene if necessary while preserving the relationship.

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Xo,
Dr. C