3 polite ways to say that’s None of your business.
3 polite ways to say that’s None of your business.
-Why do you ask?
By asking the question back it helps you shift the focus from yourself to the inquirer, which can catch them off guard & make them reconsider the purpose of their question. It challenges the intent behind the question and forces them to justify their curiosity, potentially making them more mindful of their boundaries. It also clearly establishes a boundary by refusing to provide an answer, you assert that the topic is off limits. You also preserve your emotional energy by avoiding a potentially uncomfortable conversation, as engaging in unnecessary conversations can be draining.
-I’d hate to spoil the mystery, let’s skip that question.
This response is assertive without being rude or dismissive. It works as it uses a playful tone and humor to take the edge off the potentially tense situation, making it less confrontational. It also directly communicates that you’re not interested in discussing the topic further. And it’s also respectful, as it avoids accusatory language and maintains a sense of social grace. Overall, this approach helps you set a boundary while still preserving your relationships with the other person.
-That’s best kept private, thanks for asking though!
This response clearly sets a boundary and communicates that the topic is off-limits, respecting your privacy. It acknowledges the question and shows that you heard the person and their curiosity, avoiding defensiveness. You’re able to offer a polite response and maintain a friendly tone while firmly declining to share information. And you’re able to subtly redirect the conversation, potentially taking the pressure off the asker. This response allows you to maintain control of the conversation while still being respectful and assert your boundaries without being rude or dismissive.
Setting boundaries is a healthy and necessary part of relationships, if you need more help with this book a 1:1 with me by heading to the book a session tab above.
Xo,
Dr. C