3 comebacks to use when they ask when are you having kids.

3 comebacks to use when they ask when are you having kids.

-when the time is right. I’ll let you know.

This simple response helps sets a boundary and it politely but firmly indicates that the question is personal and you’re not comfortable discussing it in detail. You maintain control and are letting the other person know assertively and politely that you’ll tell them when you’re ready to share information, if ever. It also doesn’t commit to a timeline or provide any false hope, which can be a relief if you’re facing fertility challenges or simply haven’t made a decision.

-I enjoy my freedom too much.

This response sets a clear boundary, it directly addresses the question without providing any personal information. It’s assertive and respectful while preserves your privacy and avoids discussing personal reproductive plans. It’s also empowering because it reserves your right to prioritize your own life and choices.

If they were to ask you after the fact if you’ll ever have kids, you can then say: “We’ll see what the future holds” or “we’ll see.” Then you can change the conversation.

-“I already have one” (laugh) & point at your partner. Then redirect the conversation.

This response catches the asker off guard with humor and an unexpected response. It helps deflect the conversation and shifts the focus away from you onto your partner, subtly implying that the question is inappropriate or unnecessary. It also indirectly communicated that you’re not comfortable discussing your personal plans while avoiding creating tension or awkwardness while still addressing the question.

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Xo,
Dr. C