3 comebacks to use when they ask why are you so dressed up?

3 comebacks to use when they ask why are you so dressed up?

-Better overdressed than overlooked.

This response demonstrates assertive confidence. It implies a strong sense of self and personal style. It suggests that the speaker is comfortable in their own skin and doesn’t care about others’ opinions. It also turns a potential criticism into a positive statement while cleverly shifting the focus from being overly dressed to the alternative of being ignored.

-Thank you, it’s habit.

This response helps deflect the criticism and acknowledges the comment without engaging in a defensive or argumentative manner. It implies confidence because it suggests that you’re comfortable and confident in your style choices. You also maintain composure and it avoids escalating the situation while keeping the interaction light and polite. It also shows self-awareness and implies that you’re aware of your tendency to dress up and have accepted it as a personal style. Essentially, it’s a concise, polite, and assertive way to handle an unsolicited comment about your appearance without giving the other person too much power in the interaction.

-Why not?

This response deflects the question and shifts the focus away from your attire and places it back on the person who made the comment. It implies confidence and a sense of self-assuredness. You’re not justifying your clothing choice; you’re simply questioning the question itself. Essentially, it’s a concise and effective way to assert your personal style without engaging in a lengthy explanation or argument. It’s a subtle way to say, “I’m comfortable with my appearance, and I don’t need to explain myself.”

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Dr. C