4 comebacks to use when someone copies you.
-I feel our work/style is very similar. What’s been your thought process behind it?
-I love that you’re trying new things. Can’t wait to see you put your own spin on something next.
-I love that you’re experimenting - though I have to say, I’m noticing some similarities with my work.
-There’s a lot of overlap between our work. Please be mindful moving forward.
For a more in-depth explanation, see below:
When you suspect that someone is copying you, assess their intent - is it from admiration or a lack of confidence in their own ideas or if it seems malicious. Ask yourself why it bothers you - is it a boundary issue, a concern about originality, or feeling disrespected? This can help guide which response to use next. If it affects your professional life, it’s essential to communicate clear boundaries. You can also encourage their own individuality and strengths if it’s someone close to you.
Here are 4 examples:
-I feel our work/style is very similar. What’s been your thought process behind it?
This phrase directly states your concern about the similarity without making accusations. It shows a desire to understand the other person’s motivations rather than simply blaming or accusing them, which can reduce defensiveness. It also sets a boundary by implicitly suggesting that the similarity is a concern and that you expect to address it. This option is a good way to open up a conversation and potentially resolve the issue while maintaining a respectful and constructive tone.
Works best for: Coworkers or professional settings when work ideas or strategies are being copied. Friends or acquaintances who may be unintentionally copying your style, home decor, etc. Classmates or collaborators who may be mirroring your work but need a nudge toward originality.
-I love that you’re trying new things. Can’t wait to see you put your own spin on something next.
This phrase works because it doesn’t explicitly accuse the other person of copying but rather implies that the client develop their own unique style and be more original. By emphasizing the importance of creativity and experimentation you are able to shift the focus away from copying and towards the positive aspects of the situation. You’re also suggesting that you’re excited to see what they come up with next which can help create a more positive and collaborative atmosphere.
Works best for: You want to send a message but be lighthearted. Works with a friend or acquaintance who is unintentionally copying, someone that looks up to you too closely mimicking your work, and where you’re not looking to start drama but still want to make sure they’re aware.
-I love that you’re experimenting - though I have to say, I’m noticing some similarities with my work.
The phrase balances assertiveness and social grace while triggering self-awareness in the other person. It lowers their defenses, making them less likely to get reactive and more likely to reflect, as opposed to just immediately accusing them. By inviting self-reflection rather than outright blame forces them to acknowledge the copying without direct confrontation. It also forces them sit with discomfort and reconsider their behavior, making it less likely they’ll continue copying.
Works best for: A peer, acquaintance, or casual friend who is mirroring your work or ideas. Someone who isn’t necessarily malicious but may not realize they’re copying you too closely. Someone you see often but don’t want to escalate things with - it’s direct enough to make them think but polite enough to keep the peace.
-There’s a lot of overlap between our work. Please be mindful moving forward.
This phrase is a factual statement and forces them to acknowledge the issue rather than giving room to act like it’s a coincidence. It’s firm but not hostile and while you’re pointing it out, you’re telling them what needs to happen next & paying attention. This will help shut down further copying without needing a long discussion.
Works best for: For people that need a firm but professional boundary like with a coworker, competitor, or peer in your field. Also works with someone who genuinely doesn’t realize how much they’re copying.
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Xo,
Dr. C